Your body has been through a lot. You have carried babies for 9 months, given birth, experienced the dramatic shift of hormones after birth and gone through countless nights without sleep. I get it. I am there. SO THERE. After having babies, every part of who you are has in some way shifted. Your priorities, your skin, your hips, your emotions, and HECK even your hair. (Can I get an Amen for postpartum hair loss?)
It comes as no surprise that when the camera is pulled out, you run. You just need a few more months, a few more trips to the gym, a few more salads, a new haircut/color, and the list goes on and on. You will be happy when you lose that last 10 pounds, fit into those size 6 jeans or lose that muffin top.
Besides the poor body image of yourself, you never shower. Heck, you didn't sleep all night so you b-lined it to the coffee maker, poured yourself a cup and then threw your hair up into a messy bun.
You focus every little bit of attention you have on capturing your kids. From their first smile through the day they tell you to stop, you FILL your phone with pictures, videos and memories. It becomes a full time job to cling to those fleeting memories so you capture, capture, capture.
All the while, you hide on the other side of the camera. Nobody wants to see this hot mess. Occasionally you might capture a selfie or the traditional holiday picture when you are all done up for once. Or maybe you capture yourself behind that amazing snapchat filter that makes you look like a flower fairy with flawless skin.
I see you mama.
Can I tell you something? 10 years from now, it won't be like this. You won't always be doing midnight feedings. You won't always be changing diaper after diaper in your messy mom bun. You won't always be so tired. You won't always be wearing leggings...(KIDDING about the leggings)
10 years from now, you will look back on those days with fond memories. You will cling to the memory of being the only one that could calm down the baby. You will long to relive the days where the kids fight over sitting by you at the dinner table. You will look back on those long, tired days and wish you could feel those tired baby snuggles one more time.
Momma, this phase is hard but this phase is beautiful. What you are doing is beautiful. What your body did is beautiful. You created and sustained life. Your sweet babies life. You are guiding them to be the people they need to be one day and in the process, you are putting yourself on the back burner for a little bit.
Perfectly curled hair has been traded for messy buns. Coffee dates with friends have been traded for a mad dash for your Keurig at 5am. Full nights of sleep have been traded for Little Einsteins at ungodly hours and sleepless snuggles with baby. Your firm skin has been traded for postpartum stretchy skin. Your full head of hair has been traded for a receding hair line. (Thanks again postpartum hair loss)
Momma, all of these changes are beautiful. They may be hard, but they are beautiful.
You will look back on these days and smile with appreciation for them. You will miss them. You will see other moms in the same phase of life at the grocery store and pass them an understanding smile because you did it too.
Momma, don't hide from the camera. You deserve to have these memories too. You deserve to look back and see that phase of your life. Your kiddos deserve to look back and see what you did for them. You won't see those pictures and hate yourself. You will see those pictures and miss those days. You will proudly show your children the changes of life handed to you because you chose them.
Momma, take pictures with you in it. Have your husband take pictures of you with the kids. Instead of looking at the picture and criticizing yourself, give yourself the same amount of grace that you would give another momma in the same phase of life. Instead of seeing your muffin top, look at the happy babies you are raising into beautiful human beings. Instead of noticing your double chin, notice how much you have changed for them. Instead of looking at your crazy hair line, know that these are all just signs that you are doing something hard, but worth it.
You are beautiful. This phase is beautiful. You deserve to preserve these memories. Your kids deserve to see this momma.
A momma of toddlers. <3